Now that we’re entering the colder months and the holidays are around the corner, our health may need some extra love and attention. One way that I prepare for things like seasonal depression, stress or lack of sleep is by building a nighttime intimate care routine, specifically one that prioritizes orgasms and quality sleep.
Research shows that having more orgasms improves our quality of sleep. When our bodies experience orgasm, we release a cocktail of feel-good and sleep-inducing hormones like oxytocin and melatonin. According to experts, about 50% of people with vulvas and people with penises experience better quality of sleep after masturbating. Thus, as you create a fall nighttime intimate care routine, or borrow ours below, be sure to add in some time for self-pleasure as well.
Schedule a bath.
First, I like to treat myself to a bath. Whether you live with housemates or family members, let them know that you will be spending a pre-scheduled amount of time in the tub. This allows you to get excited for this blocked-out occasion dedicated just to you. I level up my baths with Foria’s Bath Salts with CBD and Lavender. The mineral-rich Epsom salts are infused with the tension-relieving benefits of organically grown kava, lavender, calendula, ginger and hemp. This soothing formula delivers a blend of botanicals that nourish my skin, encourage circulation and relieve discomfort.
Moisturize down there.
After pat drying or air drying from my bath, I moisturize my intimate skin. I have very sensitive skin, so sitting in warm water for an extended period of time is drying, especially during the colder months. I use Peach Me’s Vulva Moisturizing Balm. Made with eight plant-based ingredients, this formula is safe to apply externally all over my intimate skin, including my outer labia and booty (yes, our anus needs moisturizing, too). It feels super hydrating and doesn’t leave any underwear stains.
Enjoy a self-massage.
Once my intimate areas are all moisturized, I like to incorporate something that feels grounding right before bed. Massages are one of my favorite practices because it allows me to connect with my body and build intimacy as well. This is when I introduce Bloomi Massage Oil into my routine. It’s formulated with organic, full-spectrum hemp extract that helps soothe sore muscles and relax the body. It has a luxurious slip with a floral, woodsy aroma that is absolutely delicious. It’s honestly the perfect addition to my bedtime ritual. If the rubdown makes me aroused, I also indulge in some self-pleasure.
Finally, it’s lights out.
When I have trouble falling asleep, I use Xula’s Zzz! (Lights Out). This CBD tincture has plant-based ingredients that help me fall asleep and stay asleep. Sometimes I add a few drops into a warm cup of herbal tea, and other times I enjoy it on its own by dropping 1/2 to 1 full dropper underneath my tongue, hold ing and then swallowing 30 minutes before sleep.
If you’re not a fan of how CBD tastes or responds to your body, an adaptogenic blend might be better for you. Restore My Sleep by Peak + Valley works to improve sleep quality and duration while reducing overall stress levels to improve long-term sleep performance. Just add one teaspoon into a warm nut milk latte, water or tea.
