There’s a misconception that anal sex is only for queer men. However, according to a CDC study, nearly half of straight men have had anal sex. In fact, more straight cis men (42.3%) have participated in anal play than straight cis women (35.9%). Straight cis men are giving and/or receiving anal sex and exploring anal play like rimming. Anal pleasure is for all bodies and identities to explore and, of course, enjoy.
Anatomy lesson: The p-spot
The p-spot (AKA the prostate) is located internally below the bladder, in front of the rectum. The prostate’s main function is to produce the fluid that nourishes and helps transport semen. Similar to the g-spot, it is a natural pleasure zone. Many penis-owners overlook this area and mainly focus on penis stimulation. However, prostate stimulation can increase orgasm by 33%. You can stimulate a prostate with fingers or anal toys, and you can enjoy anal play on your own or with a partner(s). Who knows? Maybe p-spot play is exactly what you’ve been missing.
Creative ways to stimulate the p-spot
1) Try a prostate massager
Fun for partners or singles, Lelo’s Hugo Anal Prostate Massager ($219) is a remote-controlled, thoughtfully designed prostate massager that offers new avenues of arousal and sexual satisfaction. With eight vibration settings and sensemotion technology, Hugo deeply massages the prostate while a secondary motor in the base stimulates the perineum. Lora DiCarlo’s Tilt Warming Vibrator ($140) is a multi-use vibrator that can stimulate vaginal, clitoral and anal areas. It remains in place as you explore and rotates to stimulate different areas. Plus, it has gentle, radiating heat that promotes muscle relaxation and increased circulation for more pleasure. Also from Lora DiCarlo, Sway Warming Vibrator ($150) is a dual-ended vibrator using heated technology that can stimulate both the g-spot and p-spot. Its non-phallic design makes it approachable for all partners to introduce anal play in the bedroom.
2) Anal plugs
Anal plugs are fun because they are inserted in the anus, allowing you to move and stimulate other areas hands-free. Fun Factory’s Bootie Anal Plug and Prostate Massager ($34.99) in size small is perfect for beginners. It’s curved for anal and prostate play and has a flexible base. Another option is the Bootie Anal Plug and C-Ring ($44.99). It combines an anal plug with a stretchy silicone ring for enhanced pleasure. It also has a raised area that can massage the perineum (area between the anus and the scrotum) and rocks against the prostate during movement. Fun Factory’s B Ball Uno ($34.99) is also a pleasurable choice. The weighted butt plug has a tapered tip for easy insertion. Anytime you move, the weighted ball inside the toy bounces, rolls and rumbles in response. You can get more from the motions of partnered sex with an anal plug that gives you powerful feedback with every thrust.
3) Go for the classic finger(s) and lube combo
If you’re planning to slide in a finger or two, you’re going to need some lube—and lots of it. Coconu’s Water-Based Personal Lubricant ($24.99) is a long-lasting lube with an organic formula that rehydrates sensitive tissues like the anus and is 100% edible, in case you want to use your mouth. If you’re nervous about pain, Quim’s Smooth Operator Intimate Serum with CBD ($48) is a great option. Its ingredients help increase blood flow, promote pelvic relaxation and decrease inflammation and pain. Finally, Foria’s Intimacy Sex Oil with CBD ($44) is the perfect addition to moisturizing anal play. It provides all-natural moisture and includes broad-spectrum CBD to enhance arousal as it soothes and excites the body.