Sex research suggests that many people are interested in sexual activities that fall outside the so-called “norm.” Some have kinks, sexual activities beyond the mainstream that enhance people’s solo or partnered sex. While others have fetishes, those acts or objects that need to be present for a person to experience sexual arousal or enjoyment. Many times, people have both kinks and fetishes (and they aren’t the same).
Below, we’re breaking down some of the most-common sex fetishes.
Domination & submission
Introducing domination & submission play invites a mix of pleasure and pain to the relationship that allows partners to build trust and explore novelty. People like the idea of having a “strong” partner who takes control and knows how to pleasure them. However, communication is necessary when exploring dom & sub sex. Make sure to hold conversations around expectations, boundaries and likes/dislikes.
Foot fetishes are more common than many think and are usually popular among people with penises. People with this fetish enjoy worshipping feet by kissing, smelling or massaging them. Others may even seek a humiliation component and ask to be stepped on.
This refers to people who enjoy the idea of being watched while being naked or engaging in any sexual activity. If the thought of having an audience while you pleasure yourself or someone else turns you on, then exhibitionism could be for you.
Hair that’s tied in a ponytail, body hair or long hair are all common hair fetishes that people enjoy during sex. Being able to pull, caress or look at hair can be very arousing.
Cuckolding is a form of erotic humiliation of watching your partner have sex with someone else. The term “cuck” refers to a submissive who identities as male and gets aroused knowing that his partner is having sex with someone else. Sometimes the cuck will watch from a distance, like the corner of the room. Cuckolding can allow couples to step out of monogamy in a safe way that encourages them to face the fear of being cheated on, together. This is a common fear that many people in monogamous relationships have, but they might feel too insecure to bring up. However, if you’re included in the experience with open communication, trust and support, cuckolding could be liberating for everyone involved.