It’s common to feel overwhelmed and not know where to start when it comes to masturbation. Sometimes it’s not clear what goes where or which setting is best. It’s OK if things feel a little awkward. Masturbating isn’t always instinctual. You have to learn what your body likes and that will require time, patience and willingness to explore.
If you purchased a new toy recently and are having a difficult time starting your solo play, we’ve got some tips for you below.
Charge your toy.
Nothing is worse than a dead battery mid-session. If your toy is battery-operated, make sure you use brand-new batteries. If it’s USB rechargeable — like LELO’s NEA 2 Personal Massager ($99) — be sure it’s fully charged before starting. We recommend getting into the habit of charging your toy right after play time. The more frequently you charge it, the longer it will last overtime.
Schedule time to get to know each other.
Carve time out of your week for a solo date night. This will allow you to have something to look forward to and will motivate you to experience more self-pleasure. During this time, familiarize yourself with your toy — learn what it’s designed to do. For example, there are toys that target external stimulation, like the clitoris or penis, and internal stimulation, like the G-spot or prostate. Once you know what area you’re most curious to explore, use your toy’s instruction manual as a guide while you play with the settings. We suggest trying different settings on your inner forearm to discover the ones you like and don’t like before you start solo play.
Find your happy place, literally.
Create the ambiance you feel most comfortable in. Whether that’s in the bathtub or your bedroom or with lights off and candles on. Incorporate whatever makes you feel good into your solo play. Your body and state of mind are priorities when it comes to masturbation, so do all the things to make them feel calm and relaxed.
Add something extra.
Incorporating products like an arousal oil or a personal lubricant are a great way to enhance your pleasure and make play time more enjoyable. Our Bloomi Arousal Oil ($58) has botanical aphrodisiacs like Damiana and Wolfberry that help arouse the body and support stamina. For a personal lube, the Bloomi team prefers Coconu’s Water-Based Lubricant ($24.99) because of its clean ingredients and amazing performance.
Tip: Apply lubricant both on your intimate areas and on the toy you’ll be using to stimulate. If you’re planning to use your toy internally, insert the toy before you turn on the vibration settings. Inserting while the toy is vibrating can feel slightly uncomfortable if your body is not fully aroused or relaxed.
The best way to clean your sex toy is with soap and warm water. There are toy cleansers on the market, but you don’t need them. Antibacterial hand soap and warm water are fine. Pro-tip: Take your toy in with you into the shower. Not only will this motivate you to play, but it will also make it easy to rinse off once you’re finished. This will save you time and money, while making shower time the best part of your day. 😉
Bloomi has teamed up with LELO for a Pleasure Kit bundle ($99) that includes the Bloomi Arousal Oil ($58) and LELO’s NEA 2 Personal Massager ($99). The bundle, which comes in discreet packaging, is available as long as supplies last.