Oral sex, head, going down, cunnilingus… no matter how you prefer to say it, oral sex can be a GREAT intimacy builder among couples. Most womxn (70%) require clitoral stimulation to orgasm so oral sex can be fun as foreplay or the main course.
Here’s what you should know to make your next session magical…
How common is oral sex?
Oral sex is the second most common sex act, after vaginal sex. In the last month, 49% of womxn aged 18-49 reported giving their partner oral sex and 42% reported receiving oral sex.
Why don’t womxn enjoy it more often?
Womxn tend to experience more shame than men about asking for oral sex due to worrying about odor, grooming, or vaginal fluid taste. Stay tuned for more female sex empowerment exercises soon.
Also, some partners are frankly just not that great at it. If your partner isn’t the best oral sex partner you’ve had, let’s help you help them. Enter sexual communication tips…
What should I teach my partner?
Remind your partner about your magical clitoris and the ACTUAL shape of it. It’s not just a small, external nub, but instead, a larger, longer organ with two internal ‘legs’ called crura that contain thousands of nerve endings. Find motions that stimulate all of it, not just the tiny part you can see.
(image from helloclue.com)
Here are solo and partnered tips to increase oral pleasure ASAP.
ON YOUR OWN:
To the surprise of many, the sensations you feel during oral sex don’t have to come from a partner. If you are single or simply want to experience oral stimulation on your own, we got you. Bloomi carries award-winning, body-safe, oral stimulation toys to help you enjoy your solo sessions. Explore suction, smooth circular motions, and a range of vibration speeds to customize your preferences.
WITH A PARTNER:
After you teach them about the shape of your clit, try ‘sideways oral’ or the ‘Kivin Method’. You (the womxn) lie on your back and bring your knees to your chest or place them over your partner’s shoulders. Next, have your partner lies sideways (either side is fine… try both) and starts up and down motions that go side to side on you. Feel free to re-read that.
This helps to stimulate the entire clit, not just the small outer portion. Ask them to add touch (a constant touch is a good start), light suction, and slow movements.